Take a moment to ask yourself what kind of people you surround yourself with. Do you look at your friends and co-workers and instantly feel like you are doing great in life because they are couch surfing, pay-check to pay-check, smoke it if you got it types? If so then maybe you need to raise your standards. If you are working to be better each day then surround yourself with people who will push you to be better. People who have great jobs and are constantly educating themselves, growing, and learning through new projects and ideas. People who have great relationships with equally awesome, motivational and inspirational people who take care of their bodies and minds by surrounding themselves with goodness.
What we consume mentally, physically, emotionally, nutritionally and socially are all part of our overall health. If you are around negative people who feel they are stuck in a dead end job or relationship and constantly bitch and moan about it but never take action then maybe you should re-evaluate your friendships. Surround yourself with doers not wishers. You can be a person who sits on the couch drinking a six-pack and thumbing through a travel magazine talking about all the places you wish you could visit or you can create a plan on what it will cost to take that trip and go buy an awesome new set of luggage.
Live high with people who choose to actively progress up the ladder of success with words and actions. Be with the people who talk about the great trips they are actually taking, not just the trips they wish they were taking. Surround yourself with people who are actually writing the books, going back to school, showing up at the gym everyday and volunteering their time….not those that just talk about those things. When you surround yourself with people who are living high on life they will automatically raise you up to their level. Nobody wants to have to face a successful group of friends who are talking the talk and walking the walk everyday unless they are doing the same. Raise your standards and surround yourself with those you aspire to be more like and in turn you will see your life change.
To living happy, healthy and high…
When I was younger I would set big goals for myself and think about the process it would take to accomplish that goal and feel a bit overwhelmed. As I became older and wiser I realized it is always best to set a goal and then set smaller ones that lead to accomplishing it. The small wins in life are what really add up to big success. I find this to be true in every aspect of my life.
I have recently tackled a project of cleaning up client accounts at my new job and it has been a bit time consuming and tedious. At the end of the day I feel mentally exhausted, which I believe can feel worse than being physically exhausted. I thought this project would allow me to reconcile approximately 30 accounts a day, at the least but I realize I grossly over-estimated my ability to balance other daily office tasks while tackling this project. So I had to adjust my timeline and set my bar a little lower, which is hard for me sometimes. I feel like I have failed in some way when I can’t accomplish everything I originally set out to do. This mentality is something I think many of us struggle with and I had to take a step back and ask….if I am still making steps towards completing the goal is it really a fail? No, it is not!
Just because we may not be where we want to be in life as quickly as we originally expected doesn’t mean we are a failure. I look at my life and if I judged by that yard stick I would be a very depressed individual. Instead, I have decided to look at the small wins in life. I did not go back to college to finish my degree until my late thirties. I did not find my wonderful relationship and love of my life until my late thirties either. Up until that point I was learning many lessons the hard way and my success was very slow moving. I knew I wanted more but I felt it was impossible to accomplish everything I wanted to do in life because I felt so far behind the curve. Most people by their late thirties are well establish in career and have a good relationship, kids, house and the American dream going (at least that is what I told myself).
I went back to college and worked hard while working full time and raising my daughter. I bought a home in that time and have steadily been remodeling it over the last 6 years, and recently made a career change that has complimented my education putting me on a faster track to my big goal. Through the whole process I just focused on each little win. Whenever I would look years ahead and think about all I had to do I would get anxious and feel over-whelmed. I just kept telling myself, I have to make it through this semester of college, keep paying my bills, and keep my relationships strong, nothing else matters. Keeping my priorities straight has been an important key but each day I make a list of what I need to do, things I want to accomplish and as I check them off I know I am still making those small wins that count towards the bigger goal.
Some days I may not feel good, I may just not want to exercise or I may choose the cheeseburger over the salad, some days I may not complete more than 5 accounts on my work project, some days I may just have time to send an I love you text to my friends, family or significant other….but every little positive effort counts no matter how small. So when you feel like maybe you are failing at life because you haven’t accomplished BIG things…slow your roll and think about the small wins of the day and know that its the little things that really matter.
With love, health, happiness….and the small wins of life,