In a world of many vastly different religious, political and countless other beliefs it is easy to get lost in all the controversy. At any point you can turn on the TV and see everyone voicing their opinion on different causes, debating and demonstrating for or against something. So at the end of the day how do you know what to believe? How do you make a choice in it all and determine where you stand? What causes are important to you and is anyone really right or wrong? What are the deciding factors for you when you think about certain topics?
I asked myself this question and my upbringing and my grandmother kept coming to mind. I thought about being told as a young person, before I say anything to ask myself if it is true, is it necessary and is it kind? When making decisions ask yourself is this decision a wise decision? Not necessarily right or wrong but is it wise? Based on your past experiences, current circumstances and future hopes and dreams what is the wise choice for you? Everyone has their story, their reason for believing the way they do and each person would benefit from asking themselves if their reasons come from a good place or a place of selfishness, anger, hurt, betrayal, or pride (to name a few). Sometimes people react in harsh ways because it is all they know, family environment, a past personal trauma, and even genetic trauma can be passed down for generations affecting how an individual reacts without the person being fully aware of why. When we really begin to unravel the stories of each person an understanding begins to unfold. It isn’t just about who is right or wrong, but about the why…the wise decision for me may not be the wise decision for you in every situation.
We all have a responsibility to ourselves, those we share this world with and the generations after us to ask the hard questions of ourselves of why we choose to believe the way we do. Those reason are a window into whether or not your belief system is coming from the right place. Having emotional responsibility is just as important as any other type of responsibility in this world. Understanding where your emotions are coming from, if they are hateful or loving, and why you feel the way you do, are all roads that lead to understanding yourself and your belief systems better. The better we understand where it all comes from the better we understand how complicated and intricate each individuals belief system can be. This can open our eyes and hearts to being better listeners when it comes to communicating our differences and not being so defensive and hateful when a disagreement occurs. In the process of understanding you may even find that if your beliefs are based in negativity and maybe your perspective should be re-evaluated. Allow yourself to explore, learn and grow give yourself grace as well as others. Love and embrace the amazing variety the world has to offer, every story we can learn from, and every person has good and bad within…choose to love them anyway.
With peace, love and health