The ability to remain calm and look for the positive in all situations takes practice. Being the mother of a newly driving 16-year-old and taking care of remodeling projects on my home along with holding down a full time job and full time college can be a bit overwhelming if I allow it to be. What it comes down to is, choices. I have observed friends who make excuses for why they can’t do something they say they want to do, but I think we all know… if you really want something bad enough you will make it happen. I have been guilty of making excuses in my life but as I get older I try to ask myself, why? Why am I really making these excuses?
Recently my daughter invited friends to go with her on a last minute hiking trip planned by her Dad and Stepmom. She came to me the night before complaining that every friend she invited was giving her a lame excuse instead of being honest with her. She discovered one friend was hanging out with another person that weekend but instead of being honest and telling my daughter she was hanging out someone else she simply said that her Dad said no. Why? Why not take responsibility for your choice? If you are really the friend that you think you are then you should be able to be honest and tell your friend that you have other plans or simply do not feel like going. Why lie? We lie to ourselves all the time as well…
I hear friends say they want to go back to school and then give a laundry list of reasons why they can’t. Usually I can argue with every reason they give and the truth is, they just don’t want it bad enough. I spoke of going back to school often and I remember there were many excuses and one day I just stopped making excuses and went for it. I am so glad I did because I never looked back! Our office has a weight loss program and I often see women who talk about the many programs they have tried and how none of them seem to work. I hate to break it to you ladies but EVERY diet program can work…its your choice to follow it and do the work to make it work. If you wait for the time to be right then you will never do it because there will always be an excuse to grasp on to!
Falling in love doesn’t just happen, it is a choice. Staying faithful doesn’t just happen, it is a choice. Being unfaithful is a choice also…it doesn’t just happen like so many caught cheaters claim. Going to school and making the grades does not just happen, it is a choice. Having a baby does not just happen by accident either…somewhere along the way some choices were made. You didn’t get a speeding ticket because of bad luck …you made a choice. You did not gain 50 extra pounds without making a few choices along the way. So stop making excuses and accept the fact that you made some unwise choices or just chose not to act at all and now it is time to take responsibility.
This comes back to an earlier post I made called, Just Ask It. When making a choice in life ask yourself, what is the wise thing for me do? If you have a chance please take the time to watch the video series of Just Ask It because it is full of helpful information. Having a happy and fulfilling life starts with accepting responsibility for the life we have chose to lead so far and stop making excuses. Then choosing to learn from those choices so that you can move forward and make wiser choices in the future.
With the conscious choice of happiness, health, and big love,